Everybody is familiar with the story of Chris Brown and Rihanna right? If not, let me inform you. Chris Brown is a famous singer who was reportedly dating the huge pop star Rihanna. I was reading the story about Chris Brown and Rihanna last night and discovered some very interesting news. If I understood the reading right, Rihanna and Chris Brown are back together after he put his hands on her in his range rover, Which brings me to the topic of domestic violence in relationships. Love can drive people to do some crazy things, but the problem is that some things are too much. Domestic violence can happen in anybody’s relationship, but it’s up to the ladies not to let it happen. Many people overlook abusive men like Chris Brown because domestic violence is so common, but lately, domestic violence has been on the rise and is a major issue. According to Clark County attorney staff, domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44. This is more than car accidents, rapes, and muggings combined.It is estimated that three to four million women in the United States are beaten in their homes each year by their husbands or boyfriends. The Uniform Crime FBI (Federal Bureau of Investigations) reported that one woman is beaten every 15 seconds in the U.S., and one in every 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime. This clearly shows that every woman that’s in a relationship is at risk of becoming a victim of domestic violence. Don’t let these men out here pull a “Chris Brown” act off. Women are too smart and beautiful to let their lover abuse them. If he hits you physically, he’s not a true lover, and you need to think again about running back his way.
I feel you 100%. So many females overlook the abuse because they think they so "in love" when actually it's just insecurity. They feel as if they need that male protection to make them feel comfortable. So they deal with the verbal, emotional, and physical abuse that he gives them. Some women are afraid to leave them because of the threats they recieve. Women today has to realize that love is not abusive, it's caring. So don't think that he loves you just because he say it. If he beating on you or disrespecting you, then he don't love you. And please don't fall for the "I hit you because I love you" or the "I'm afraid that you gonna leave me so I do things that I don't mean to do." Ladies it's all lies!
ReplyDeleteIn your reading, I felt that you only feel that the ladies endure domestic violence. What do you think about men being domestically abused? It happens to them all the same. What are the signs of the start of abuse in relationships? Rihanna and Chris Brown were a wonderful couple, but love has it's limits. Even though the media tried to make Chris Brown look horrible, it is reported on gawker.com that Rihanna hit on him as well, therefore she is not as much of a victim as most would think. http://gawker.com/5166432/report-rihanna-hit-first-so-chris-brown-wants-a-misdemeanor You stated that "Women are too smart and beautiful to let their lover abuse them." Is this your personal opinion, or are you just making a statement? What if you were domestically abused? How would you react? It's true that women can be more naive when it comes to domestic violence. They become slave-like for the men that claim to love them, when in reality, they're not living in reality!
ReplyDeleteIn this blog i felt as if the title " Dont let him "chris brown" you" is catchy and it grabs readers attention. But i dont think that chris brown was the best person to use in your blog as a clear case of domestic violence. No one knows the true story of what happened except for chris brown and rihanna. Chris Brown did admit to hitting her, yes!, he plead guilty to all the charges that were brought up against him. But rihanna told her stories on numerous occasions and constantly switched her story up. For instance on a her interview with Diane sawyer(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BNw-j-8394), rihanna was ask if she hit chris. Rihanna replied even if i did, that wouldnt justify what he did.Diane repeated the question rihanna said "no i didnt" But on other sources such as TMZ, they clearly state that rihanna was the one who reportedly struck the first blow. (http://poponthepop.com/2009/03/09/tmz-confirms-what-we-already-told-you-rihanna-hit-chris-brown-first/)"Women are too smart and beautiful to let their lover abuse them." I agree with you on this one hundred percent but i also believe that women should not hit men either. Just because a man is stronger, some women thinks its ok to put thier hands on a man,and when he puts his hands back on you in retaliation then you run and cry and call the cops!!! LIFE doesnt work like that rihanna.
ReplyDeleteIt is easy to say that after a man abuses a woman she should just turn the opposite way. Although, when in love that is not the easiest thing to do. Like the blog says "love can make people do some crazy things." That being said, a woman will think to turn straight back to her boyfriend or husband. Even with the facts of abuse about woman in the United States, the reports will keep happening. It's what will woman do to prevent it in the first place. Ladies should look for signs in their lovers before it leads to the ultimate beating. "Does one feel affraid, get yelled at a lot, or even feel emotionally numb?" http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm. Well if ladies started noticing these side effects more often before it led to the ultimate beating then they could help themselves as well as others around them before it got to be too late. So to all the ladies out there, not only help yourself, but also help others so we can reduce the numbers in domestic abuse before it gets to big.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with the fact that domestic violence is increasing in numbers every year. I also feel that the punishment for this crime isn't severe enough to discourage a man or a woman from putting their hands on their spouse.
ReplyDeleteI disagree with the fact that your throwing Chris Brown under the bus for that incident. Honestly the story was never proven of what really happened that night.
Don't let him "Chris Brown" You!!!
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During my first blog I noticed that the readers expressed a lot of key points. The fact that men are victims of domestic violence caught my attention. While reading every response in detail, I noticed that basically every response stated that Rihanna hit Chris Brown first or either she didn't stick with one story throughout the case.
It may be true that Rihanna hit Chris first, or it may be all one big rumor, but it is true that men are abused. Most men don't report domestic violence cases even if they are the victims. It is estimated that 835,000 men are beatterd each year. http://www.menweb.org/battered/. This proves that a lot of women are abusing their men today. Why most men suffer in silence about being abused? This is a question that we all want to know the answer to. Most be are afraid that no one will believe them. People tend to mock men that are victims of domestic violence. According to the Bureau of Justice Statics Crime Data Brief, men account for apporimately 15% of the victims of reported intimate partner violence. http://www.suite101.com/content/male-victims-of-domestic-violence-a54969. Chris Brown evidently used the silent treatment too, until he stood in the courtroom facing two felony charges or domestic violence. So since most of my readers believe that Rihanna hit Chris Brown first, was he scared that people would mock him for being a victim of domestic violence? Or did he make that up in hopes to get a felony dropped to a misdemeanor? http://gawker.com/5166432/report-rihanna-hit-first-so-chris-brown-wants-a-misdemeanor. Domestic violence can be started either by a woman or man. Ladies are not the only victims. Not just in the Chris Brown and Rihanna case, but in any case. Men being hit by women seems rare, but in reality its not. Trust me, I know victims personally.
Domestic abuse is a growing problem. Although it has been around for years it seems to be at an all time high now. I'm not sure exactly what is the cause of the increase in violence in the homes but it needs to end. It is also wierd because lately I have heard that woman are starting to be the abusers in their households. Either way no violence is okay. I can truly say that I understand the pain of being in an abusive relationship. I was involved in one a couple years ago. Towards the end of the relationship my then boyfriend started to become a little to possessive. He started to use his hands rather than his mouth to talk to me. I got out of that relationship before he could do any real damage. What happened with Chris Brown and Rihanna is their business. No one really knows the true story. For all we know she could have been hittinhg him first provoking Chris, maybe he snapped. I was watching a youtube interview with Rihanna and I honestly felt bad for her. You can see the site at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2BNw-j-8394. She was being interviewed by news reporter Diane Sawyer. But really no violence is good so lets just put an end to it!
ReplyDeleteDon't Let Him "Chris Brown" You!!!
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Reading a comment that a young lady left on my blog today, I understands that she really wishes domestic violence would end in every relationship around the world. I have realized that the reason domestic violence will never stop is because it's hard to leave an abusive relatioship. Most women and men stay in abusive relationships because they think their "so called" lover will stop hitting them eventually. Also he or she may be economically dependent upon their partner.(http://www.leavingabuse.com/why_women_stay.html)Leaving abusive relationships can be hard and dangerous. It is best that you leave without the abuser knowing. In the Chris Brown and Rhianna case, she left him and also obtained a restaining order against Chris Brown Which is a court order intended to protect you from further harm from an individual that has hurt you, It keeps the abuser away from you. You can get help obtaining a restraining order at (http://www.letswrap.com/legal/ofp.htm) I believe that as we become more involved in the fight against domestic violence as a nation, we can help save men and women that are in abusive relationships now as well as prevent individuals from becoming abusers. Domestic violence cases like Chris Brown's and Rhianna's can be avoided. With that being said, I would like to make it known that this month is Domestic Violence Awarness Month, and we all should be helping ourselves, friends and family get out of any abusive relationship that they are in.(http://www.domesticviolence.org/)There are women and men all over the world getting abused right now. If you know someone that needs help getting out of a abusive relationship, call the nearest domestic violence support group or call 911.
Domestic Violence should be publicy informed by the media to assure that females understand the consequences of abuse. There should be information on how to get out of an abusive relationship so that there will be a less chance of something worse than abuse happening to females. Girls talk as everyone knows so they will eventually tell someone about the abuse going on in their relationship. If you are told about the abuse then that gives you the right to get them help regardless of what they say. Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.www.ncadv.org/files/DomesticViolenceFactSheet(National).pdf You have to think yeah this time they were only hit, but what about next time? Or what if there is not a next time? Guys should treat their girlfriends or wives as if they were their sister. What guy would want to beat their sister or disrespect them for that matter? Domestic violence can be avoided. When someone says I love you it shouldn't be shown with bruises and such.
ReplyDeleteAlot of people stay in these abusive relationships because they are either scared or feel like it's true love and they cant leave the one they love. However, if someone truly loves you, he/she will never put his/her hands on you. There is no excuse for domestic violence, none at all. Take a chance at saving your life and remove yourself from the situation. Leave! It may be hard to do, but in the end, you will benefit greatly.
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