Effects on Children With Gay/Lesbian Parents

Healthy children are the product of healthy parents, right? Although most say, “yes,” we all know that there is a silent, yet known disclaimer regarding the parents that are raising these children. The disclaimer states that whatever is witness through out life that homosexual parents are not suitable people to be raising children. While keeping that in mind, what makes a healthy parent or better yet what makes a healthy child? I believe that in many eyes the definition of healthy differ from one family to the next. Identifying what is healthy within a family is much harder than pointing out what we as individuals view as negative or lack of a better word unhealthy.

Through out my research, children with homosexual parents do no worse and in some cases better with life developments in comparison with children with heterosexual parents. These data is so outstanding in nature that the researchers have begun studying the parents themselves, BEFORE they where actually parents, to distinguish if they are actually going to be “good” parents. A psychologist by the name of Paul Cameron who strongly opposes gay parenting states within the article, “Gay Parents Good for Children?” that homosexual parent do not do well because they have more partner changes, more drug abuse, and more history of missing work. All of these issues work together to make a homosexual parent less suitable. Ok, folks side let’s take a minute to discuss these points. A homosexual person having more partner changes than a heterosexual person? This is simply ludicrous, because I can do a survey on the Valdosta State campus and prove that the partner changes are somewhat equal between homosexual and heterosexuals. Regarding the issue of homosexuals having more drug abuse than heterosexuals, I am almost positive drugs do not discriminate and pick and chose their users. The more history of missing work is almost laughable. If anyone reading this has children think back to when you didn’t have children work was far less important then, am I right? It does not matter if you are gay or straight when you have no “real” responsibilities going to the beach with friends is way more fun than working at a job that you absolutely hate and do not necessarily need. His opinions are taken seriously though and was even published in a journal, but I can I point out that the Psychological Reports is a journal, in which authors have to be pay to be published in. Do I have to mention the Psychological Reports is the journal that Cameron was published in? I’m sure you picked that up.

The psychologist above viewed negative or unhealthy behavior as frequent partner changes, drug addiction, and job-hopping as characteristics of homosexual activity, and this results in lack of parental competence. I view this as negative and unhealthy behavior for most people that are young and inexperienced. Also, I believe many people will agree that being young and inexperienced does not exclude you from doing anything including being a parent. Live life, make mistakes, and gain respect, then if you so fancy have children. It’s the best and healthiest feeling the in world.

Gay People are NOT Monsters!

Many adoption agencies do not allow gay couples to adopt children and almost half the countries in the world feel that this policy is a good one. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_adoption confirms that adoption by same-sex couples is prohibited by a majority of countries.
Why can’t two people who want to love a child be able to parent them? Oh yeah, because being gay is morally wrong they will be teaching the children to do wrong as well. False! Heterosexual parents can teach a child wrong doings as well. Currently Florida specifically bans gays and lesbians from adopting. Claiming that gays and lesbians were child-molesters, Bryant was able to convince state senators to vote for a ban on gay adoptions (http://lesbianlife.about.com/cs/families/a/adoption_2.htm). Just because someone is gay, does not make them an evil monster. In fact, scientific studies have shown that children who grow up in one or two-parent gay or lesbian households fare just as well emotionally and socially as children whose parents are heterosexual. Studies have shown that children are more influenced by their interactions with their parents, than by their sexual orientation (http://lesbianlife.about.com/cs/families/a/adoption_2.htm).
Children that are waiting to be adopted do not care that the awaiting couple is gay. What they (the children) are looking for is simple, it is love. They are looking to be cared for and protected. There is no legal reason why gays and lesbians should be denied the right to adopt children. The law only hurts children waiting to be adopted and deprives loving parents who would care for these children (http://lesbianlife.about.com/cs/families/a/adoption_2.htm).
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_parenting#Same-sex_marriage explains that In January 2008, the European Court of Human Rights ruled that same-sex couples have the right to adopt a child. In all U.S. states except for Florida, unmarried LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) adults can petition to adopt a child. Granting the petition is left to the discretion of a judge.
So what do you think? Is it wrong for a gay couple to want to help a child, to want to teach the child what love is and give them a home, something in which they probably do not even remember what feels like? Or do you agree with me and few others on the fact that, gays are normal people and are not aliens, and should be treated accordingly?

Dream Weddings for Everyone

Girls. Imagine your dream wedding. Are you in a beautiful white ball gown or in a sparkly A-line gown? Are you in a church with your closest friends and family or are you on the beach with every person that you know? Are you marrying the man of your dreams?

Men. Imagine yours. Is your best friend your best man? Maybe it is your little brother? Are you still a little drunk from the party the night before? Are you marrying the woman of your dreams?

Why does it seem that only heterosexual people can have their dream weddings? What about the homosexuals? Shouldn’t they deserve their dream weddings also? Because, it ruins the idea of the American family or it’s amoral? Well luckily for homosexuals, the idea of same-sex marriage is becoming more popular.
Sadly, as of right now there are only five states and one district (Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, Vermont, and DC) recognizes same-sex marriage. These married couples even receive state-level benifits.
Stanton Peele predicts that republicans will eventually accept same-sex marriage because the support is rising every month. In his article The Last Gay-Bashing Campaign?, he starts off with how former president George Bush’s last campaign it effected Massachusetts Governor Mitt Romney. After the campaign Romney established himself as a major anti-gay voice. Even though the state’s Supreme Court decided to allow gay marriage, Romney tried to pass an amendment to ban it. Of course this amendment wasn’t passed.
I’m sure even if Romney’s amendment was passed it would have ended like it did in California. Even though they passed a law legalizing same-sex marriage in 2008, they banned it again at the end of the year. Now, finally, the Supreme Court says the ban was unconstitutional and overturned it. “California ‘has no interest in differentiating between same-sex and opposite-sex unions.’”
If California could the role model for the rest of the states against gay marriage, that little girl can have her dream princess wedding in a church with the girl that she loves and the little boy who had always dreamt of marrying the man he loves on the beach can do so.

Being Gay is Okay!!!!

Same sex marriage is a very controversial topic. People should be able to have the freedom to whatever it is they want to do. Even though it is morally wrong, The United Sates prides itself on giving people to freedom to do whatver they want as along as it isn't hindering society. Compared to how gay relations were in the past, it is more widely accepted now than it ever was in the past. Twenty years ago, you couldn't be seen with the same sex romantically involved. Those who were strong belivers of it faced many consequences. Some were black-balled from getting jobs, they couldn't eat in public places, and some were even killed by radical opposers.

I grew up in a religious household, so at first my views on homosexual marriage was very judgmental, but as I grew older that perception started to change. Homosexuals are not creatures, they are human beings, they do everything that a noraml everyday American does. One thing to remember is that God made everybody different, so people may not have the same ideals as everybody else, and it would be wrong of us to judge them for doing so. In the article Four Reasons to Support Gay Marriage and Oppose the Federal Marriage Amendment by Tom Head, he uses statistics to show that the support for gay marriage is steadily increasing each year. Society may actaully be warming up to the idea of gay marriage. As time has progressed, the radical opposers against gay marriage has passed and the disdain for it has substained.

If you fall in love with someone, no matter their race, religion, or gender, you should be able to spend the rest of your life with that person without any kind of ridiculing, or possibly fearing of your life. Most people reason for their disdain for gay marriage is the interpretation of the Bible. It is true that God made man and woman but you can't tell people what to do with their life. It also mentions to never judge anyone, and as a society we need to do better with that.

Same Sex Marrige

Same sex marriage is slowly approaching the states. It is already allowed in California so the question is which states are next? In 2003 the Massachusetts Supreme Court ruled that gay marriages were unconstitutional. The Senate of Massachusetts asked to propose that would bar same- sex couples from civil marriage. In May 2008 California's Supreme court ruled that homosexual couples should have the right to marry.

People should be able to marry whoever they want to when ever they want as long as it makes them happy. Why are people getting mad? It is not like they are getting mad. So what is all the commotion about? Every person is equal in his or her own way and have a certain preference. If many cannot agree then there should be a vote. Homosexual couples should have the same rights that everybody has seeing how we all go by the same laws. The first amendment states that a person's religion must be protected. Religion is the main reason all this commotion of gay marriage is going on. If people choose to be homosexual then others need to respect their decision and let them live their lives. If a person knows that they want to support same-sex couples let them do it. Some people that are fighting against it are just following other people and do not even know why they are fighting. Everyone deserves to be happy and if the person they are with is making them happy then they should be together. The only thing that really matters in a marriage is love.