Effects on Children With Gay/Lesbian Parents

Healthy children are the product of healthy parents, right? Although most say, “yes,” we all know that there is a silent, yet known disclaimer regarding the parents that are raising these children. The disclaimer states that whatever is witness through out life that homosexual parents are not suitable people to be raising children. While keeping that in mind, what makes a healthy parent or better yet what makes a healthy child? I believe that in many eyes the definition of healthy differ from one family to the next. Identifying what is healthy within a family is much harder than pointing out what we as individuals view as negative or lack of a better word unhealthy.

Through out my research, children with homosexual parents do no worse and in some cases better with life developments in comparison with children with heterosexual parents. These data is so outstanding in nature that the researchers have begun studying the parents themselves, BEFORE they where actually parents, to distinguish if they are actually going to be “good” parents. A psychologist by the name of Paul Cameron who strongly opposes gay parenting states within the article, “Gay Parents Good for Children?” that homosexual parent do not do well because they have more partner changes, more drug abuse, and more history of missing work. All of these issues work together to make a homosexual parent less suitable. Ok, folks side let’s take a minute to discuss these points. A homosexual person having more partner changes than a heterosexual person? This is simply ludicrous, because I can do a survey on the Valdosta State campus and prove that the partner changes are somewhat equal between homosexual and heterosexuals. Regarding the issue of homosexuals having more drug abuse than heterosexuals, I am almost positive drugs do not discriminate and pick and chose their users. The more history of missing work is almost laughable. If anyone reading this has children think back to when you didn’t have children work was far less important then, am I right? It does not matter if you are gay or straight when you have no “real” responsibilities going to the beach with friends is way more fun than working at a job that you absolutely hate and do not necessarily need. His opinions are taken seriously though and was even published in a journal, but I can I point out that the Psychological Reports is a journal, in which authors have to be pay to be published in. Do I have to mention the Psychological Reports is the journal that Cameron was published in? I’m sure you picked that up.

The psychologist above viewed negative or unhealthy behavior as frequent partner changes, drug addiction, and job-hopping as characteristics of homosexual activity, and this results in lack of parental competence. I view this as negative and unhealthy behavior for most people that are young and inexperienced. Also, I believe many people will agree that being young and inexperienced does not exclude you from doing anything including being a parent. Live life, make mistakes, and gain respect, then if you so fancy have children. It’s the best and healthiest feeling the in world.

Gay People are NOT Monsters!

Many adoption agencies do not allow gay couples to adopt children and almost half the countries in the world feel that this policy is a good one. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_adoption confirms that adoption by same-sex couples is prohibited by a majority of countries.
Why can’t two people who want to love a child be able to parent them? Oh yeah, because being gay is morally wrong they will be teaching the children to do wrong as well. False! Heterosexual parents can teach a child wrong doings as well. Currently Florida specifically bans gays and lesbians from adopting. Claiming that gays and lesbians were child-molesters, Bryant was able to convince state senators to vote for a ban on gay adoptions (http://lesbianlife.about.com/cs/families/a/adoption_2.htm). Just because someone is gay, does not make them an evil monster. In fact, scientific studies have shown that children who grow up in one or two-parent gay or lesbian households fare just as well emotionally and socially as children whose parents are heterosexual. Studies have shown that children are more influenced by their interactions with their parents, than by their sexual orientation (http://lesbianlife.about.com/cs/families/a/adoption_2.htm).
Children that are waiting to be adopted do not care that the awaiting couple is gay. What they (the children) are looking for is simple, it is love. They are looking to be cared for and protected. There is no legal reason why gays and lesbians should be denied the right to adopt children. The law only hurts children waiting to be adopted and deprives loving parents who would care for these children (http://lesbianlife.about.com/cs/families/a/adoption_2.htm).
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_parenting#Same-sex_marriage explains that In January 2008, the European Court of Human Rights ruled that same-sex couples have the right to adopt a child. In all U.S. states except for Florida, unmarried LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) adults can petition to adopt a child. Granting the petition is left to the discretion of a judge.
So what do you think? Is it wrong for a gay couple to want to help a child, to want to teach the child what love is and give them a home, something in which they probably do not even remember what feels like? Or do you agree with me and few others on the fact that, gays are normal people and are not aliens, and should be treated accordingly?

Being Gay is Okay!!!!

Same sex marriage is a very controversial topic. People should be able to have the freedom to whatever it is they want to do. Even though it is morally wrong, The United Sates prides itself on giving people to freedom to do whatver they want as along as it isn't hindering society. Compared to how gay relations were in the past, it is more widely accepted now than it ever was in the past. Twenty years ago, you couldn't be seen with the same sex romantically involved. Those who were strong belivers of it faced many consequences. Some were black-balled from getting jobs, they couldn't eat in public places, and some were even killed by radical opposers.

I grew up in a religious household, so at first my views on homosexual marriage was very judgmental, but as I grew older that perception started to change. Homosexuals are not creatures, they are human beings, they do everything that a noraml everyday American does. One thing to remember is that God made everybody different, so people may not have the same ideals as everybody else, and it would be wrong of us to judge them for doing so. In the article Four Reasons to Support Gay Marriage and Oppose the Federal Marriage Amendment by Tom Head, he uses statistics to show that the support for gay marriage is steadily increasing each year. Society may actaully be warming up to the idea of gay marriage. As time has progressed, the radical opposers against gay marriage has passed and the disdain for it has substained.

If you fall in love with someone, no matter their race, religion, or gender, you should be able to spend the rest of your life with that person without any kind of ridiculing, or possibly fearing of your life. Most people reason for their disdain for gay marriage is the interpretation of the Bible. It is true that God made man and woman but you can't tell people what to do with their life. It also mentions to never judge anyone, and as a society we need to do better with that.

Should gay couples have the right to marry?

Marriage is a sacred event held between two people that are in love. So why should it matter what sex the individuals are in order for them to have to right to get married? Today's society has changed greatly compared to fifty years ago. Tattoos, peircings, clothing, woman in job fields, hair styles and more have all been on a path of being more accepted than they were in earlier generations. Gay marriage is still a heated issue though. Yes, gay marriage was not even an option to consider back in the day, but why is society still at a stand still when it comes to this issue? Most peoples arguments against gay marriage is a result from their religion. In an article by Steve Waldman entitled "A Common Missed Conception" a poll based on gay marriage is discussed and showed that "the opposition to gay marriage and homosexuality is highest among the most religious."

Growing up in an environment where religion was not a part of my everyday life or forced upon me(not saying that it is forced upon everyone), I was able to explore my environment of people around me with an open mind while also gaining an appreciation for others and their lifestyles without judgement. I have learned that not everyone is going to be brought up the same way, with the same views or even have the same morals. This is why I am a firm believer in the legalization of gay marriage.

To me it does not matter if you are black or white, gay or straight, or from two different countries with two different marriage arrangements, if you develop feelings towards someone, you should have every right be married and share your everyday lifestyle with that person, without restrictions. People are not defected if they are gay. They just have a different preference towards whom they are attracted to. It may not even be the physical appearance of a person that attracts them to that person. If someone is attracted to the person's personality, and have an immediate connection towards them, why are they punished when it comes to being able to share their lives with one another?

When couples get married, they receive marriage benefits. They can share a home, shared health insurance, receive sick leave to car for their partner, joint adoption, have tax benefits and many more advantages than just two couples that are "together". With gay marriage not being legal, gay couples are not entitled to these benefits and cannot receive them any other way. This is a discrimination matter. Everyone is suppose to be treated as an equal. Yes, gay couples are different than straight couples, but what makes them "not-normal"? They are no different from you and I. Being gay is not a handicap, they are not stupid or "freaks" or have the inability to take care of themselves, others, run a business, or be a CEO, they still have the ability to make everyday conscious choices, vote for who they believe in, and make mistakes(such as getting a speeding ticket) like everyone . They just happen to have a different lifestyle than others, and that is it.

At one point, it was inter-racial marriage that was illegal and looked at as if the people were insane, or stupid. Society (or a more larger selection of people) has come to terms with inter-racial marriage and has accepted it. How different is that from gay marriage? Whether it is two people from different races or two people of the same sex, it is the same thing. People want to be treated as an equal.

If we as a society can just let go of judgement towards others and their lifestyles and become more accepting towards one another, we become able enough to overcome more obstacles as a whole. Being able to make decisions based on everyone's different lifestyles without exclusions and being able to coexist within a society forms a better relationship within a society and calls for an easier, stress-free living environment when it is known that everyone is and equal, and is treated as one.