Effects on Children With Gay/Lesbian Parents

Effects on Children With Gay/Lesbian Parents:

What makes a family? Some may say, “a father, a mother, and any children that may result in their love and happiness,” but the meaning of the world family has changed dramatically over the years. Lately, this term family has escalated to a level that most are uncomfortable with. We see two women walking down the street holding hands, while watching their son run ahead of them, or two men playing in the park with a little girl they adopted. Are these groups of people any thing less than a family? Some may argue that these people are not families, well, not in the traditional sense. I have been with my partner for three and half years, and we have a 15-month-old son. We are more than a group of people. We are a family, and I will not be considered as anything less than that. My son is quite a character just as any child his age. He cries, laughs, and loves to hug. None of which, are negative effects of being raised by two mothers. But with all of our opinions pushed aside regarding if families are really families, let’s discuss they the effects upon children that live within same-sex parent homes.

National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH) has some pretty interesting findings when a study was conducted around homes without a father. This study included homes with single heterosexual mothers, and homes with two lesbian mothers. One finding included that sons of lesbian mothers are more likely to be more nurturing and affectionate to their future families. Another observation during the study showed daughter whether with heterosexual mother or lesbian mother were more likely to have future occupations in areas that were traditionally non-female. A third finding told researchers that children raised by lesbians were more likely to consider a homosexual relationship. The information above is certainly not all the data collected, and not all nontraditional families should be limited to be these results.

There is another interesting article I found while looking into this issue. The article, “Children of Lesbians May Do Better Than Their Peers,” reassured me as a lesbian mother. Children of lesbian mothers seems to have no significant differences in social development and adjustments compared to children raised in heterosexual homes. However, even with the almost unnoticeable differences with children’s social development and adjustments the children have higher levels of self-esteem and confidence, and did better academically. This is an amazing find. We, as a society, have been told that homosexuality is bad, and will only affect the children of America in negative ways. This article proves that we, as homosexuals, are breaking barriers, and proving ourselves as parents and as families.

While doing research on this subject I cannot find much information regarding the effects on children that may have two fathers. What do you think that is? My opinion is that it is much harder to become a parent if you are two gay males trying to start a family. Adoption can be difficult and expensive, and finding someone to carry the child can be time consuming, again expensive, and emotional draining. What are your thoughts?

Acceptance of homosexuality

The acceptance of homosexuals has been a very controversial topic for years.
People tend to be afraid of things that they do not know or understand, so our natural reaction is to "punish" it. An example would be the laws restricting homosexuals from doing certain things. In the United States we have laws preventing them from getting married, working in the military, and some jobs won't even hire them. President Clinton signed the "Don't Ask Don't Tell" bill into law in 1993; giving homosexual's permission to participate in the military as long as no one knows what you sexual preference is. We treat homosexuals like they are of a completely different race, just because they are not of the "Status Quo" does not mean that they are not normal human begins just like everyone else. Just because their sexual preference sets them apart, does not make them any different then a guy who prefers different types of women and vice versa. People argue that inequality is wrong and everyone should be treated equal; yet we still cannot accept people who prefer the same sex. A big argument is that the "bible" justifies why they feel so strongly for why slavery is wrong, but then again during slavery the slave masters used it to justify their actions as well. Telling the slaves that if they did exactly what was asked of them then they would be saved. So i think using religion to justify your basis is irrelevant. Everyone has the right to have their own opinion about something. We just need to learn that just because we do not agree with it does not necessarily mean its WRONG.

Should Gay Marriage Be Acceptable?

Usually, families consist of a male,

female, and a child. Nowadays, it is becoming more and more common to see same-sex marriages surround society. Homosexual marriages are becoming increasingly acceptable. Many people believe that gay marriage is wrongful or considered a sin, but many also believe that marriage should be a sacred commitment between two individuals who are in love. Nobody should be denied the right to wed based on sexual orientation. Individuals, based on some scientific research studies, are born gay and can't help the way they are. Others choose to be homosexual, which is their way of living, which should be acceptable. Then again, most gays are determined by a hormonal switch! Nobody wakes up one morning saying, "hey I'm going to be gay and be discriminated against." It's something in their hormones that tell them to behave they way they do. Nobody should refuse the right to wed, no matter gender, race, ethnicity, or sexual preference. Denying homosexuals their right to wed is minority or reversed discrimination.

Gay marriage has it's advantages and benefits. The number of adoptions would increase dramatically, reducing the number of foster kids and orphans. This is a good look because many male-female households have children out of wedlock and there are many teenagers who have kids and neglect them. Gay couples seem to have a genuine commitment to raising a loving family because they cant produce with one another. Gay marriage should be allowed mainly for the aforementioned reason. God's intention of marriage was supposed to be between a male and a female. Really, marriage should be between two lovers, regardless of sexual preference. . . as long as it isn't between objects! P.S: Love Makes the World Go Around.

Same Sex Marrige

Same sex marriage is slowly approaching the states. It is already allowed in California so the question is which states are next? In 2003 the Massachusetts Supreme Court ruled that gay marriages were unconstitutional. The Senate of Massachusetts asked to propose that would bar same- sex couples from civil marriage. In May 2008 California's Supreme court ruled that homosexual couples should have the right to marry.

People should be able to marry whoever they want to when ever they want as long as it makes them happy. Why are people getting mad? It is not like they are getting mad. So what is all the commotion about? Every person is equal in his or her own way and have a certain preference. If many cannot agree then there should be a vote. Homosexual couples should have the same rights that everybody has seeing how we all go by the same laws. The first amendment states that a person's religion must be protected. Religion is the main reason all this commotion of gay marriage is going on. If people choose to be homosexual then others need to respect their decision and let them live their lives. If a person knows that they want to support same-sex couples let them do it. Some people that are fighting against it are just following other people and do not even know why they are fighting. Everyone deserves to be happy and if the person they are with is making them happy then they should be together. The only thing that really matters in a marriage is love.